“Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a single spark,the tongue is like a small rudder that steers a large ship despite the wind and the waves” James 3: 4.6.
My beloved friend:
God Morning, is 4 am here in lovely Vegas, and I have been awake for a couple of hours courtesy of my three year old lil’guru, who wanted to have a breakfast feast at this time. :) .
So, as I proceeded to prepare him an early breakfast meal, I began thinking about this:
Our words have power, they linger in time…they create lofty worlds, they can invoke spirit, create affirmation and descriptively praise the good in others which serves them to create more of that good they are already creating.
The next may be true as well.
Our words have force, they linger in time, they create dense worlds, they can invoke dark thoughts, create diminishment, and descriptively express the “negative” in others, which serves them to withdraw, behave, defend or reject the force they are being approached with.
Yes, words are like fire. A fire that either serve as a warming embrace, or as a blazing force that destroys the forests on its path.
I was contemplating an email I received a couple of days ago from a student, sharing that his spouse NEVER compliments him or points out anything positive, nor to him, nor to their two kids, with the excuse that the reason she chooses not to compliment is because she wants to build character in them like her father did with her.
A teacher told me once that this type of choice, is a sure-fire way to open doors of resentment and withdrawal from those that love you, who find it hard to approach you due to the invisible lingering walls created by words, and behaviors, that invite for withdrawal rather than unification.
He shared that Pointing out someone’s faults is NOT the way to endear them to you, as this will invite people to act in defensive ways.
He shared that the modern research used to conclude that it takes 5 positives to overcome 1 negative. yet he believed that the ratio might be closer to 20 to 1. Regardless of research, or not, using our words to empower others rather than wound, feels like a more humane way to contribute a legacy of lingering empowerment, and peace, to build foundations of trust wherever we are and go.
“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people, I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise” Charles Schwab
Anyways, :)… I wish you a beautiful day where presence, loving thoughts, and kindness in our actions and words are present, for self and others, where we celebrate self/and others success, and when if we can’t say something that empowers others, and are tempted to say something that may wound, we istead choose the observance of our own mind, and invite the power of inquiry and silence to soothe the hidden need to strike or be right.
I will see you next week in the blog.
Oh! and por favor remember to click like, share and if this blog served you, subscribe, and do so as you choose to live R.A.W:
Responsibly, Aware & Whole.